Online Couples Counselling & Therapy in Ontario
Helping couples reconnect, repair and remember why they got together in the first place.
You love each other, but lately you’ve begun to wonder if that’s enough. In the beginning, it was so easy, and now it’s anything but. You’re tired of having the same old arguments; while there have been some big ones in the past, these days it’s the arguments over all the little things that really stand out. You feel unappreciated and misunderstood. You’re worried either you or your partner, or both, are just going through the motions. Things can’t go on like this. You know something needs to change.
You’re ready to:
Understand why these things are happening, so you can actually change them
Feel heard, understood and respected by your partner
Be able to see your partner’s perspective without giving up your own
Rebuild trust & emotional intimacy
Create healthy boundaries that support both you & your partner
Successful relationships rely on the ability to thrive together. Whatever coupling you find yourself in, it’s normal to find yourself at odds with one another sometimes. I’m here to honour your bond, bolster communication, and create space to grow together as the great team you’re meant to be. I have extensive experience engaging in couples therapy with people of varied sexual orientations and gender identities and in varied types of relationships (e.g. dating, cohabitating, married, co-parenting). Through evidence-based couples therapy, it is possible to gain insight and skills to reduce conflict, improve communication, and rebuild that strong connection that brought you together in the first place.
My honest thoughts on Couples Therapy.
I am passionate about couples therapy. After all my years of experience, I have two pieces of advice:
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If you’re experiencing problems in your relationship, but worry it’s too soon for couples therapy: do it and do it now.
Research tells us that couples wait an average of 6 years before getting help! By the time you notice that your relationship is not where you want it to be, you and your partner are likely already engaging in patterns of unhelpful behaviour that become increasing difficult to change even with the help of an experienced therapist. You don’t need to be on the brink of breaking up before coming to therapy. In fact, even healthy relationships can experience stress and benefit from therapy when dealing with challenging issues such as managing finances, buying a new home, blending your family, becoming empty-nesters, or caring for aging parents.
If you are on the brink of separation or divorce and haven’t yet engaged in couples therapy: do it and do it now.
I believe that you have to earn your way out of a relationship, leave no stone unturned so to speak. You want to make sure that if you’re going to end your relationship – especially if you’re married, own a business together or if there are children involved – that you know you tried everything possible to make it work. You’ll have to live with that decision and its consequences for the rest of your life and you’ll want to be at peace knowing it was your best choice. That said, if you’ve determined that the end of your relationship is inevitable, therapy can assist you to manage the end of the union. In low conflict situations, therapy can help couples – especially those who will continue to be involved in each others lives in some way (e.g. as co-parents or work colleagues) - part ways amicably, while maintaining mutual respect and healthy boundaries. The end of a relationship is never pleasant, but support from a therapist can help everyone move on with minimal drama.